Whether it’s a beautiful sunrise, or a special message, each one has the power to move us, emotionally. I discovered this power long ago and began collecting inspirational quotes that spoke to me.
I placed them around my home—near the mirror in the bathroom for my first uplifting thought of the day; on the fridge in the kitchen; inside cabinet doors. I sometimes purchased quotes on strips of wood and three-dimensional blocks and placed them strategically where I would just come upon them during the day—on the fireplace hearth; on the top jamb of doorways; on shelves; or, if the quote was especially inspirational, on a wall.
As the director of several early childhood programs, I posted quotes here and there in my childcare centers as well. They were relevant to our life and work, and in the course of a day we saw and read several.
And, you know, they served a valuable purpose. They set the tone. They shifted our thinking. They lifted our moods. They brought us peace. They made us smile.
Just reading a good quote can quickly take us from the moment we’re in, to another—and positively change our focus. Reading a quote provides a quick and timely burst of wisdom—often, just what we need. And, it only takes 10-20 seconds. Yet, the message it contains can propel us for months or years.
This is powerful inspiration.
These messages appeal to our subconscious mind, where creativity resides. And in the reading of these messages, our entire thought process can change—directing our energy toward a more positive path. For me, a win-win!
So, yes, I have always been a big fan of inspirational quotes because with very little effort on my part, positive things happen. I have watched the subtle changes take place—the aha! moment, the epiphany—all because of a posted quote.
Here are some of my favorite inspirational messages:
Wherever I am, be all there.
When writing the story of my life, don’t let anyone else hold the pen.
When the decision is clear, the doing is effortless.
We are the sum total of everything we have experienced.
I must stand guard at the door of my mind.
Thoughts become things – choose the good ones!
Light up every room I walk into.
Dear Past, Thank you for all the lessons. Dear Future, I’m ready!
Trust the timing of my life.
The mind is everything – What I think I become.
Notice what I notice.
When it comes to the words I choose, Whether in my mind or amongst friends, Let them be of what I like and love What I care about and cherish What makes me happy What gives me wings What makes me dream— And very little else.
Be careful how I am talking to myself, because I am listening.
I am going to be very, very, very happy, And then do everything I have time to do after that.
Tell the negative committee in my head to sit down and shut up.
Good night, Sleep well, Dream of possibilities, and behold the magic that is within me.
If I can imagine it and I can visualize it, I can create it.
Go confidently in the direction of my dreams.
Before we are leaders, success is all about growing ourselves; When we become a leader, success is all about growing others.
Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.
What we send out to others returns to us magnified.
Say what we mean, Do what we say, Own what we do.
How do we know when we have arrived, if we don’t know where we are going.
People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.
Seek first to understand, and then, to be understood.
Do not get upset with people or situations; both are powerless without our reaction.
Leadership is not a position or a title. It is an action and an example.
Surround ourselves with people who push us to do better. No drama or negativity. Just higher goals and higher motivation. Good times and positive energy. No jealousy or hate. Simply bring out the best in each other.
Passion + Persistence = Results
Reach for the stars and we may hit the treetops.
In everything, give thanks.
Did you find an especially good quote for you?
I’d love to add to my collection. So, send along your favorite inspirational message/s—and I’ll post them as well. We can call it a team project! This I know—we need all the inspiration we can receive.
Summer is here—in all of its glory! The sun is strong, the rain is gentle, and the flower and vegetable gardens are thriving.
I don’t know who originally created the following “garden,” but beyond the play on words that brings a smile, there is wisdom and guidance here for all of us. This is a perfect reflection for this season. Enjoy!
Remember, what we sow, we later reap.
5 Rows of “P”s purpose presence promptness preparation perseverance
3 Rows of “Let Us” … be true to ourselves … be loyal and unselfish … be faithful to our purpose
3 Rows of “Turn Up” … your enthusiasm … your conviction … your determination
This is the time of the year to reflect—upon the school year just completed, and the new year to begin. This summer, during this planning time, this goal-setting phase for both directors and teachers alike, consider planting this “garden” in your early childhood program. It’s a great way to set the tone for the year to come.
The longer I live, the more I realize the tremendous impact of attitude in a work environment. As a means of emphasizing this, I have used the following little formula with my teams. I’m not sure where this came from originally, but my thanks—many times over—to its author.
We have all been to those meetings at work where someone wants you to produce at least 100%. Here’s a little math that might prove helpful in the future.
What makes the 100%?
If: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z is represented as: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
then: H-A-R-D-W-O-R-K (8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11) = ONLY 98%
and, K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E (11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5) = ONLY 96%.
It stands to reason that HARD WORK and KNOWLEDGE will get you close, but a positive ATTITUDE will get you to the top.
Attitude is said to be more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.
It will make or break an organization, a child care center, a home.
The remarkable thing is that we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace—just for that day! We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we CAN do is play the one card we have—and that is our attitude.
Some say that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. So, I offer the following invitation to you:
Join me, especially now in this uncertain time, in working on our collective attitude—wherever you find yourself, in whatever work situation, in whatever position you hold. It begins with one! And, it is contagious.
Working Together: Characteristics of Effective Teachers
Every now and then I come across an article that fits beautifully with our work toward quality early education and care. Here, then, are the “Twelve Characteristics of Effective Early Childhood Teachers”, compiled by Laura J. Colker, and published in the Young Children journal. The key word here is effective. If we’re going to teach, our aim should be high!
These personal characteristics, which are often based on feelings and beliefs, are sometimes difficult to identify. But, when one combines these characteristics with both knowledge and skill, you have the makings of an excellent teacher.
The twelve characteristics are:
Passion about Young Children: Enthusiasm is one thing, but something stronger, drive and passion, set the excellent teachers apart. When you feel you can make a difference, passion is ignited!
Perseverance: Dedication, sometimes tenacity, but always the willingness to advocate for something better for the child.
Risk-taking: Sometimes thinking “out of the box” makes the difference when working with children – despite the fact that it has never been done before.
Pragmatism: Compromising moves the plan along. Even if the gains are small and steady, effective teachers know they will eventually accomplish their goals.
Patience: A long fuse is necessary when working with so many. Patience is a must!
Flexibility: The expectation is that a teacher will be able to deal well with change and unexpected turns. That is the nature of the work.
Respect: In thought, word, and deed!
Creativity: Essential! The hallmark of an effective teacher!
Authenticity: You know who you are and what you stand for. Children are very good judges of character – they know who is real, authentic, and they respond accordingly.
Love of learning: To inspire this in young children, the teacher must also exhibit the characteristic.
High energy: Most children respond positively to the teacher who has energy, physical stamina, and the ability to play.
Sense of humor: Isn’t learning supposed to be fun? There is nothing better than children’s spontaneous laughter in a classroom. Enjoyment! Besides, laughing feels so good!
A pretty good list. Do you agree?
And when you have one or more teachers on your team who display these characteristics, you have the makings of an exemplary early childhood program!
As Director, I used this article with my teaching teams – as a basis for reflection and as a tool in setting professional goals. Reading, thinking, and talking about each of these characteristics reminds us why we love the work we do, and why we continue to grow in the field.
If you would like to read the entire article, you can find it in Young Children (March 2008). NAEYC members can access the article via www.naeyc.org.
Thanks for reading – please share with other colleagues if you’d like.
I love to watch flocks of geese flying over my house in their familiar “V” formation. Graceful. Perfectly spaced. And honking. Within this post, I’ll share what some believe about why geese fly the way they do. And then, and more importantly, what we can learn from them. Enjoy the quick read!
As each bird flaps its wings, it creates uplift for the bird immediately following. By flying in “V” formation, the flock adds at least 70% greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own.
Successful teams share a common direction and sense of community, and can get where they are going more quickly and easily, because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.
When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone—and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front.
There is no “I” in team. Successful teams stay together and learn to work well together by building on the strengths of each person on the team. There is great advantage to this—for everyone involved.
When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back in the wing and another goose moves in to fly point.
Successful teams share the work. Each person knows the others’ jobs and can jump in at any time, as needed. Each can lead and each can follow. The team works together and gets the job done—every time, without fail.
Geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
Successful teams cheer their colleagues on, and celebrate the successes of their teammates.
Finally, when a goose gets sick or hurt, and falls out of formation, two other geese fall out with that goose and follow it down to give help and protection. They stay with the fallen goose until the crisis has passed, and only then do they launch out with another formation to catch up to their group.
Successful teams stand by one another, offering support, assistance, and help when needed. Teammates know they can count on one another. There is a give and take in the relationship, a respect for one another, and a knowing that we all, at one time or other, “need.”
A perfect metaphor for building a team, isn’t it! I would love your thoughts on this one!
Stay tuned. My next few posts will be about building a successful early childhood team. It is, perhaps, the single, most important work of the leader of an organization.
Each year I look forward to the first day of spring—longer daylight, peepers, tree frogs and, yes, spring cleaning!
Part of my spring-cleaning ritual has always included reflecting about my life, and taking stock. Spring is my time for tossing out what doesn’t fit or work anymore, and thinking about what I might add instead. Re-assessing my long-range goals always gives me the big-picture view. From that vantage point, I can then add the details that will take me there.
If my earlier goals no longer seem realistic or important, what should I do with the rest of my life? Where do I picture myself in the next five years? What do I need to do to get there? Can I do this in my current position?
Sometimes, reflection will reveal to us that we want to stay on as the leaders of our programs. But we need to make some changes in how we do our work. We need to do some spring cleaning in order to get ourselves back to our original sense of purpose.
Dream a little. What would your ideal workday look like? How much time would you spend on professional reading and writing? How much time would you allocate to talking with your staff? When would you arrive and leave each day? How would you put your peak performance times to their best use? Sometimes it helps to keep a log for a few days to get the true picture of how your day is spent. Reading the log is usually eye opening. It generally provides some “Aha!” moments. And, it is a good first step in making thoughtful changes.
So, here are some other thoughts for you to consider:
Make yourself unique. Work to acquire a set of skills and talents that no one else has—things that interest and excite you, and might become your next work. The more we can reinvent ourselves in our lifetime, the more options we will have—and the more successes we will enjoy.
Seek professional outlets. If you find that your skills and interests are not being fully challenged, explore other sources of professional inspiration. Reading in depth the topics that interest you, writing for publication, consulting, offering local workshops, or teaching at the college level, are all options and opportunities open to you.
Cultivate new relationships. Look beyond your child care center director colleagues and establish rapport with licensing workers, college professors, and others in our early childhood field. By getting to know a larger variety of people who work, in some capacity, with young children, you increase your chances of being inspired, challenged, and supported.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Become involved in non-job activities. If your entire life is consumed by your job, you will be overwhelmed when that job is going poorly. On the other hand, if you have many gratifying activities in your life, your frustrations on the job are more likely to be balanced by the satisfaction in these other areas.
Indulge yourself. Being an early childhood director should not make you a martyr. Treat yourself to an afternoon at the art museum. Plan an exciting vacation. Go to the conference at Disney World. All work and no play make directors no fun to be around.
Remember that you set the tone for your early childhood program. You are the role model for every teacher, parent, and child at your center. Give thought to what you are projecting and what others are observing, hearing, and absorbing.
Start today; clear out the cobwebs; do some spring cleaning! Take one step at a time, and breathe new life into your work. And, then, share your experience with others!
Years ago, I came upon a blog post written by Dharmesh Shah, Co-founder and CTO of HubSpot. He is ‘spot on’ (no pun intended) overall—and his thoughts are relevant to this leadership blog. The following are selected portions of his post, which I offer to you—the leaders (directors, managers, and supervisors) within our early childhood community.
. . . Leaders aren’t given respect; they earn the respect of the people they lead. Leaders are not automatically trusted; they earn the trust of the people they lead. In cases where someone “inherits” a position or is given a position arbitrarily, they don’t really have trust—they have a title. Those are different things.
The best way to earn respect, to earn trust, and to earn the right to lead others is to lead not by word, but by example. When I know you truly believe what you say—because your actions support what you say—then I will start to trust you. Then I will start to respect you. Then I will truly start to follow you.
Here are a few ways to lead by example. But keep in mind if you simply go through the motions, everyone can tell. If you don’t believe, deep inside, that what you’re doing is important— that what you’re doing is the right thing—then don’t do it. Everyone around you will be able to tell. People have a highly sensitive Insincerity Meter that rarely fails them.
GSD (Get stuff done).
Every business preaches action and execution, yet in many there is a major disconnect: “leaders” don’t actually produce; they ensure production. Many “leaders” care more about how things are done than about finding ways to do things better. Many leaders care more about their positions than their work.
Every day make sure you roll up your sleeves and do something. Sure, you might have administrative duties. Sure, you might be in charge of developing big-picture strategies. Fine. But never forget that work requires work—and getting things done.
Don’t say execution is important. Show execution is important.
Live your culture.
Ultimately, every business culture is, or at least should be, an extension of its leadership. (Of course, if you aren’t actively creating your culture, one will be created for you—and it may not be one you like.)
Mission statements, value statements, and culture codes are fine, but if you are not seen as a living embodiment of your culture, then all those efforts will be wasted.
“You should be seen as of the culture, never above the culture.
Take blame and share credit.
With authority comes responsibility—at all levels of an organization. Do you want your employees to feel a sense of responsibility and accountability? Take the hits you deserve.
And then take some hits you don’t deserve.
Whatever the issue, regardless of who is actually at fault, don’t throw others under the bus. Throw yourself under the bus. Accept the criticism or abuse. You can handle it—even if you don’t deserve it.
And when things go surprisingly well, always share credit. Chances are, you didn’t pull it off alone. Nothing breaks trust more than when a leader takes full credit for what everyone knows was a shared effort.
When you take blame and share credit, a couple of things happen. Your employees know you ultimately feel responsible for mistakes and share recognition with others when things go right.
And when it’s their turn, they will take blame and share credit, too.
The cycle will continue, because selfless acts are contagious.
Trust so you can be trusted.
Things change when companies grow. More employees result in increased complexity, more mistakes, and greater ambiguity.
So, in response, you create guidelines and policies with enough leeway for employees to make good decisions.
At HubSpot we don’t have pages and pages of policies and procedures. We try to guide our decisions with three words: Use Good Judgment.
We define “good judgment” as favoring the company over the individual, and the customer over the company. It looks like this:
Customer > Company > Individual . . .
If an action is good for you but bad for the company, it’s not right. If an action is good for the company, but not for the customer, it’s dubious. (generally, what is bad for the customer is always bad for your company.)
Trust is based on action, not words. Give people the freedom to make meaningful decisions, to operate in a way that is most effective for them, and to simply do the right thing, and they will trust you.
As the manager – of a home, a classroom, a school, an organization, a business – our weeks are filled with details – hundreds of details that need our attention. We must deal with hundreds of pieces of paper; hundreds of conversations, emails, or text messages; hundreds of interactions – in person, over the phone, or via Skype or FaceTime; and hundreds of tasks to be completed. All of this takes focus, skill, a bit of juggling, and extraordinary organizational ability.
And, most of us have both a career and a family, which easily doubles the details we handle. How do we do it all? And, how do we balance the demands of our work and our life?
Strategies, tips, short-cuts, realistic expectations, setting priorities, managing stress, and cutting ourselves some slack in the process of living and working help greatly.
For several years, I was the Director of Work Life Programs for a large business in Boston. My job was to support our 6,000-strong workforce by helping them to find the balance they sought between their work and personal lives. Without balance, we cannot be effective in either arena. So, we added relevant informational programs, educational seminars, resources, and discussion groups to what we called our “lunch and learn” workshop program/schedule.
Because the world is moving at an even faster pace today, and finding balance between work and life is still a goal to attain for many, I have included some resources we found helpful. My hope is that you will, too. The following are all available through amazon.com.
The Art of Self-Renewal: Balancing Pressure and Productivity On and Off the Job, by Barbara Mackoff. Ideas for working productively without working yourself to death. Tips on managing stress and balancing work with the rest of life.
First Things First, by Stephen Covey. More life management strategies from the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
Getting Organized, by Stephanie Winston. Practical tips on using time more efficiently, including ideas for organizing papers and belongings, managing family finances, and teaching children to be organized.
Organized to Be the Best, by Susan Silver. A practical approach to organization skills and time management, with reviews of available resources – from filtering systems and labeling devices, to software and personal information managers.
The Relaxation Response, by Herbert Benson. Simple meditation techniques that can be used to relieve stress.
Time Management for Unmanageable People, by Ann McGee-Cooper. Alternative organization ideas for those who don’t respond to traditional time-management techniques. Suggestions for “visual organizers” who like to keep their work out where it’s easy to find.
The Power of Positive Doing: 12 Strategies for Taking Control of Your Life, by Ivan Burnell. Workable strategies for accomplishing whatever you want in professional, personal, financial, and spiritual life. Includes self-tests and tips for how to change.
The Stress Management Source Book, by J. Barton Cunningham. A principle-centered approach, with information on how to deal with stressful work situations, life transitions, and loss. Includes self-tests, cites research, and offers catchy sayings.
The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Reaching Your Goals, by Jeff Davidson. Covers all aspects of developing and implementing goals in seven areas of life. Includes lots of tips, work sheets, illustrations, and side bars. Includes a good section on career goals.
Don’t Say Yes When You Want to Say No, by Herbert Fensterheim and Jean Baer. Best-selling all-time classic on assertiveness. Offers step-by-step suggestions for expressing needs, changing habits, and reinforcing skills.
Guilt is the Teacher, Love is the Lesson, by Joan Borysenko. Offers a thorough discussion of the subject of guilt and how to manage it.
Taming the Paper Tiger, by Barbara Hemphill. Tips and techniques for managing all the paper and clutter at work and in your home, including how to set up a work center, organize your home computer, deal with bills and tax information, and keep track of family records and memorabilia.
From this vantage point in my life, looking back on the balancing act between work and life that I performed for forty+ years – sometimes successfully, sometimes not – I can give you a light at the end of the tunnel when I tell you that both work and life will get easier, less frantic, more deliberate, more satisfying, and downright enjoyable.
“This, too, shall pass!” I love this quote! It has followed me everywhere, and early on became one of my balancing strategies, my mantra. I had it written above my office door, where I could read it as each person entered! It helped keep me sane, and gave me the ability to put the situation at hand into perspective. Feel free to use it.
My best to you! And, if you have an effective tool to share, please do. Making connections with one another and sharing what we have learned is what working and living is all about!
And in these two days, I find myself walking through the past months of 2019—re-living and remembering the events, the experiences, and the moments that made this year special. Some adventures were firsts; others were a once-in-a-lifetime kind of thing. I had many more happy, joy-filled days than frustrating ones. And then there were the many—so very many—people I re-connected with. We picked up where we had left off 2, 10, 50 years ago! What a gift to have so many wonderful people in my Life!
As I sit at my desk, adding birthdays and events to my new 2020 calendar, I realize how much I love both endings and beginnings!
Both give me an opportunity to take stock of my Life. Both give me an opportunity to begin again—to take from the last year what I now want in my Life. To remember those things that went especially well, and keep them in this year’s repertoire. And, yes, to reflect upon those things that didn’t go as well as I had thought. To end and then begin again is energizing! And, it makes my Life interesting!
In my professional Life —each year I thought about how I had gotten to this point in my career; how all of the pieces somehow fit together at this point in time. I jotted down new ideas as they came to me; and I began to shape the new year ahead. I was always looking forward. Someone once said (and I’m paraphrasing here), How will you know when you’ve arrived, if you don’t know where you’re going?
As I saw it, that was my job as the leader of the program, school, organization—to set the course. And, the best part of beginning is that I could reset it annually. The comforting, flip side of this was that if something didn’t work out, I could end it!
What began in my work life seeped into my personal life, and I find myself just as excited at the end of each December as I begin to map out the new year. There is time to reflect between the holidays—and so I ask myself many questions in order to shape my next adventures.
What did I do in 2019 that I would like to do again in 2020? (I begin my list-making) What things on my current list never happened? Should I add them to my 2020 list? Are they still relevant in my Life? What new things interest me now—and should I add them to my list? Are these things I am simply wishing for in 2020, or are they goals to accomplish? How do I want to live my Life next year? What is the ultimate purpose for my Life? Am I moving toward it? What will get me there? What path shall I take this next year? Do I need direction or shall I just wing it?
Lots to consider.
On my birthday and again at the end of the calendar year, I ask myself these questions—and more. And I reflect on who I am at this new point in my Life, and what now makes my heart sing. And, yes, I begin to write—whatever pops into my head. For these are always my best thoughts and ideas. They spring from somewhere else—and I have learned to follow their lead as I make my lists.
This blog post is an example. “Endings and beginnings” just popped into my head—as I sat down at the computer. And so, I am running with this line of thought.
This new year, I will continue this practice and see where it takes me.
This past year it brought forth my first book. I actually wrote all year (in my little cottage) and finished the first complete draft just before Thanksgiving. I’ve been letting it simmer during the holidays, and just after New Year’s Day, I will return to it. It will be fresh and new again to me—and I suspect I will make many edits as I polish it. The next phase will be its publishing—and I will listen for guidance daily as to the next steps involved. What pops into my head will be what I do. I have learned to trust this guidance. I have accomplished so much and experienced so much of life by listening to that still small voice—and then acting.
As this year ends, I know that my writing will continue. I have loved the art of writing in my peaceful country setting. And I know that I am meant to share many things that I have come upon in my Life—that could be helpful to others. This excites me—and, at 71 years of age, yes, I can tell you that one can still get excited about Life!
I will let go of other business interests I have pursued and greatly enjoyed. They were very satisfying and I learned so much, but they now pull me away from my true Life’s work. And I feel confident that writing, sharing, and teaching is what I am to do for the rest of this Life. As I write this, I am quite at peace. (I have learned to trust my gut as I make decisions—it never lets me down.)
So, what about you?
What do your endings and beginnings portend for you? Do you enjoy turning the pages on the calendar? Do you think about this stuff as I do? I might be onto something or, I might be quite an anomaly! I’d love your thoughts as you get ready to welcome the New Year. 2020 is not only a new year, it is a new decade with possibilities untold!
My very best to you in 2020. May it bring something new—and quite wonderful—into your Life.
For the last 40 years, I have been a successful teacher, director, and leader in the field of early childhood education. My blog posts, my consulting and coaching services, along with my broad array of training and workshops for early childhood educators offer a wealth of best practice materials and resources for those who aspire to quality in the field.
Thank you for visiting! I invite you to share your thoughts, and look forward to hearing from you.